Is there ever something in your life that you
could just get completely lost in or that you can do for hours on end, something
where you lost all sense of time and that almost felt like being in a weird
trance state?
For you it might have been a video game, a
sport a juicy novel or a Netflix series’. Most of us have experienced something
like that at one point or another and the cause for that is really an obsessive
or addictive tendency within us that makes us lose ourselves in certain
activities.
Now if you were brought up in and heavily influenced
by today's modern society, you know that the words obsession or addiction have
a negative connotation.
They're mostly used to describe people misusing
drugs, Psychopaths or weird stalkers who get obsessed with a certain person.
The ideal mental process is that you should
just be normal and not get too carried away with a certain subject and as soon
as you show a little bit too much of an obsessive quality you are seen as
mentally ill.
We have to use positive words like dedicated
or committed to describe someone's work ethic that might be seemed as obsessed.
But, still they could be classified as a workaholic.
Just like the old saying “Everything is good
in moderation” what Grant Cardon tries to tell you with this book is that in
order to become really successful and to reach your goals.
You have to disregard what society tells you.
You have to give yourself permission to be
extremely obsessed or rather committed.
You have to allow yourself to become
completely immersed in an area to reach greatness within it.
And yes, there are a lot of people that will
tell you that it is wrong and that you will only harm yourself or get birds out
and they might actually just try to help you and only want the best for you
like your parents, your wife or husband or your best friends.
But what you have to understand is that
obsession or addiction itself is not bad for you. It's just another trait in a
human's character.
It only starts to be bad for you when you
direct your obsession to harmful and unprofitable things: drugs are obviously
not something that will improve your life in the long run, as is binge watching
one TV series after another or eating junk food every day.
But once you turn all your focus into helpful
and profitable activities like working out, building wealth or education yourself,
you set yourself up for incredible success.
You now turn the same obsession made you like
in Grant Cardin's case, “A heavy drug addict into building the life that you
desire.”
There is a general rule that tells you whether
your obsessions are healthy or unhealthy.
An unhealthy obsession makes you escape from
reality, just think drugs, TV, video games. A healthy obsession makes you turn
your desires and dreams into reality like building wealth, training to get the body
you want or working on your relationships.
Just look at the defining people in history
they were all obsessed. Martin Luther King obsessed with establishing equality
in the United States, Muhammad Ali obsessed with being the greatest boxer of
all time and yes Hitler obsessed with conquering the world or a part of it.
And even in Hitler's case, the obsession
itself was not the problem. His goals and the misuse of obsession was the
problem. You cannot deny the effectiveness
and in fact he was able to make through his obsessiveness.
Throughout history we can learn from great
leaders but we can also learn a lot from failed and horrible leaders.
Obsessive behavior towards the goal is really
a superpower and just like with every other superpower it can be used for evil
or for good. I highly recommend using it for your own good as well as the good
of others.
You might ask now how does one get obsessed
with something especially obsessed with things that are helpful and can bring you
a better life.
First of all you have to figure out what you
want to have happen in your life you should know that in every single area.
How much money do you want to have?
What lifestyle do you want to live?
Do you want to get married and have kids?
You just have to be certain about what you
want your life to be like and this is where visualization will come into play.
Only from there can you start to use obsession
as a positive tool and then you have to be obsessive about goal setting as well.
Don't just see goals as a nice thing to do
that you write down one day and look at once in a while. No! You have to really
breathe your goals, write them down every morning and read them again before
you go to sleep. You have to be laser focused on your goals.
In that way you are constantly reminding yourself
about what needs to happen, to make sure you are not wandering around with no
clear direction like most people.
The next thing you need to do is what Grant Carden
calls Feeding the Beast and the Beast that is your obsession. Grant explains
that what we pay attention to is what we get.
A one-line definition of the law of attraction
and the more attention we give something the more we feed it the stronger and
more powerful it grows.
In life it is vital to pay attention to the
things and people that are working for and with you and ignore the things and
people that are not.
So, what feeds you the success feed you, is
reaching your potential feed you, what drives you to reach your goals, what is
your why, do you want to have a lot of money so that you can have the freedom to
do whatever you want to do and make sure that every action you take lead you to
your desired outcome.
Write these positive actions down so that you remember
what it takes for you to feed the beast at the same time you have to starve the
doubt as Carden describes it.
He says “Doubt is the dream killer”, doubt is
the most dangerous and insidious form of mental terrorism on this planet. It's one
of the biggest reasons why people don't become successful and if you don't want
to be one of them you better do everything you can in order to eliminate doubt
in your life and that includes the thoughts that you allow yourself to think,
the people you let in your life and the actions you decide to take.
Let's use an example from earlier you have decided
to become wealthy not just normal wealthy but wealthy enough to compete with
Bill Gates and Carlos Slim.
What thoughts you are thinking on a daily
basis, do you think about how awesome it is going to be to have freedom or are
you worried about failing and being laughed at by your friends and family.
What people view letting your life, are they
encouraging you and are possibly trying to reach their own goals or are they
doubting you and are trying to tell you that it's impossible and then what kind
of actions are you taking.
Do you take calculated risks in order to advance
or are you too afraid to even get started, like with things that feed your
beast.
Write down everything you don't want in your
life and that doesn't help you on your journey to success and then cut that
stuff out completely and throw away the paper.
Lastly keep refueling your obsessions. The best
way to do that is to always keep updating your goals. Never think you have made
it. There are always new things to conquer that you can get obsessed about and constantly
repeating this cycle is the only way you can figure out how great your
potential actually is.
So, let's review all the things we talked
about today. Obsession itself is neither good nor bad, it's what you use it for
that determines that.
To figure out whether your obsession is good
or bad use the rule that is when you escape reality.
Good is when you turn your dreams into reality.
Give yourself permission to be obsessed even if society tells you it's wrong.
Obsession is a superpower that all the defining
people in history have used to fulfill their dreams.
Know exactly what you want in life in order to
use obsession to your advantage.
Feed the beast or fill your life with things
that help you reach your goals.
Starve the doubt or cut everything out that
hinders you on that journey.
And lastly keep refueling your obsession then
constantly set new goals because nobody has ever made it. There is always more
to conquer.
